> ## Content Index > Fetch the complete content index at: https://defying-gravity.synaps.media/llms.txt > Use this file to discover other available public pages before exploring further. # If You Give It Everything, Even Not Reaching It Has Its Beauty - URL: https://defying-gravity.synaps.media/en/its-beauty/ - Published: 2026-09-30T01:24:00.000Z - Updated: 2026-10-10T05:16:33.000Z - Description: Beginnings are almost never bad. When you step into something new, everything is fresh, and whether you want it to or not, the unknown on every side heightens both the sense that you are changing in ways you never expected and the feeling that a new adventure is about to begin. - Author: Tatz - Tags: #en Beginnings are almost never bad. When you step into something new, everything is fresh, and whether you want it to or not, the unknown on every side heightens both the sense that you are changing in ways you never expected and the anticipation of a new adventure is about to begin. Like a night when alcohol, caffeine, and the magnetic social charm of a fascinating person all enter your system at once, your pounding heart refuses to settle, and [the new eyes you have been given](https://defying-gravity.synaps.media/en/the-eye-deal/) begin picking up expressions of the world you never even knew were there. But as the seasons wear on, the maze grows deeper, the beautiful brocade begins to reveal the weight and roughness of its lining, and the silks that once looked so gentle start showing the needles they had kept hidden. It seems most encounters do not go smoothly forever, and once you stay with them long enough there will be times when things refuse to go the way you want, and times when you begin to wonder whether perhaps this is simply beyond you. — For example in aerial silks, I spent some time practicing release moves (completely releasing the body from the silks, performing a flip or twist during free fall, and catching the silks again in midair), but I never reached the point where I could perform them consistently, and I saw no real sign that I would ever be able to hold myself securely in a split beyond 180 degrees. But among the things that seem impossible for you, there are 2 kinds: - Things that are physically impossible - Things you have merely convinced yourself are beyond your reach And most things belong to the second category. As for that second category, I think many of the things you believe are beyond you are simply things you do not yet know the right way to do. Roll-ups were one such case for me, and even after months of practice they still seemed so laughably impossible that I became convinced every YouTube video I saw had to be fake and that I was trying to do something physically impossible, but once I learned the right way, I could do them with ease. As is well known, belief can become a self-fulfilling prophecy, so once you come to believe that you cannot do something, you make it less likely that you ever will. If so, perhaps the first step really is to believe that you can. — Then when exactly should you truly give something up? Is it when people who started after you begin mastering the trick one after another while you alone remain stuck for months, until you start to wonder whether there is any hope left? Is it when you seriously begin to suspect that the structure of your body simply makes it impossible for you? Is it when fear wins so completely that you cannot even bring yourself to practice it? I still do not think it is any of those moments, because none of those signs actually tells you why you cannot do the trick, and before wondering whether it is time to give up, you should first ask how well you understand it, what exactly you have tried, and how far you have really pushed those attempts. The reason is that remarkably often, we reach the wrong conclusion all by ourselves and decide that something may simply be impossible for us, collecting failed attempts and one reason after another to give up, thinking my body is too stiff, I started too late in life, I am afraid, I am not strong enough, until the thing is finally filed away as beyond my reach. That is far too great a waste. Nothing has actually proved it impossible, and yet we retreat early simply because we have assumed that it is, defeating ourselves before we have even discovered whether the limit is real. If we had only known the right way, we might already have been close to getting there. Of course, there are things that truly lie beyond our control, and there are certainly times when accepting that matters, but acceptance should come only at the very end, after you have completely identified and understood what is stopping you and exhausted everything that was actually within your power. If you give up every time something fails before you have fully understood why, the day will never come when your relationship with it becomes something more, simply because you never tried to go any farther. — And to give something up is to ignore what you truly want and force an ending onto it, because you still want to become able to do it while at the same time trying to tell yourself that it is already beyond you, and that is where the conflict begins between the part of you trying to let go and the part that does not want to. Only you can know what you truly want, and in the end, perhaps the only person you can ask whether you should give up is yourself. What matters is what you want to do. The feeling of falling in love with something and wanting someday to become able to do it is not rational, and even if a coach or someone else tells you that it looks too difficult and you should go in another direction, it is not the kind of feeling you can simply turn off. That is precisely why truly deciding to let something go means struggling with it, trying everything you can, fully identifying and understanding what is standing in your way, and only then choosing of your own accord to walk away from that bet. That is not running away, but a retreat that only someone who has genuinely faced the thing can choose. When you can truly do that, I think you can finally feel the attachment fall away, feel genuinely free of it, and move on. So please, before you decide it is over, take it all the way. — The reason you should not give up merely on the strength of an assumption is that once cutting things off halfway becomes a habit, that habit becomes part of the way you grow, and you end up repeating the same outcome with different people or different things. Once a feeling beyond reason has taken root, throw everything you have at it until you truly believe there is nothing more you can do, or at the very least until you can identify exactly what is stopping you and say that you have done everything within your power. Whatever the result, I think that will do far more for you than giving up halfway through and forcing yourself to call it finished. I’ll be writing more stories for aerial lovers! Subscribe to get notified when a new post is published. Subscribe **Check your inbox!** A confirmation link is on its way. Please click it to finish signing up. Something went wrong. Please try again later. Sending... --- [The Day We Rig Silks on the Moon (On the Strength of Fabric and Hardware)Asking a woman how much she weighs is generally considered bad manners, but for an adult aerialist, even a woman weighing somewhere around 440 lb (200 kg) is probably well within the normal range. Of course, this is how you measure body weight: 1\. Drop onto a scale from a![](https://cdn.synaps.media/defying-gravity/content/images/icon/Screenshot-2025-12-29-at-17.43.42-2-94d31127-e96d-4852-9638-0861e232e2cd.png)Defying GravityTatz![](https://cdn.synaps.media/defying-gravity/content/images/thumbnail/ogp3-2-799a6d38-5c00-45d7-8353-20ddea65df7a.png)](https://defying-gravity.synaps.media/en/silks-on-the-moon/) [FlowingWhen I watched a professional aerialist whose body bore the unmistakable imprint of years of specialized training even before she had touched the silks, what struck me most was how few tricks she actually performed. (This ties in with what I wrote earlier about the letting-go rate.)![](https://cdn.synaps.media/defying-gravity/content/images/icon/Screenshot-2025-12-29-at-17.43.42-2-28faa5c3-f564-4b54-8b07-80987cb506a2.webp)Defying GravityTatz![](https://cdn.synaps.media/defying-gravity/content/images/thumbnail/ogp3-2-0d559500-5e60-435f-b770-239372f608cf.webp)](https://defying-gravity.synaps.media/en/flowing-and-falling/)